Before the meeting
- Write down 2 to 3 recent moments that show what you've noticed ("spent an hour designing a bridge and explained every part").
- Note anything that seems hard for your child too. Strengths and struggles often travel together.
- Decide the one thing you most want from the meeting.
Questions to ask
| Goal | Question |
|---|---|
| Understand | "How do you see my child in class? When are they most engaged?" |
| Compare | "Do you notice the same interests or strengths I see at home?" |
| Challenge | "What extension or enrichment options exist?" |
| Support | "Is there anything they find hard that we could help with at home?" |
| Next step | "What would you suggest we try first?" |
Say "I've noticed…" rather than "My child is gifted" or "My child is bored." Observations invite collaboration; labels can put people on the defensive.
After the meeting
- Send a short thank-you summarising what you agreed
- Try the next step at home too
- Check in after a few weeks with how it's going
If you're considering an assessment
Ask whether the school offers screening, which professionals they work with, and what an assessment would change for your child's support. Schools and countries differ a lot in how this works.